Sometimes it’s relaxing to switch off the lights, hit the bed and just lie there, looking into the dark space around you. The essence of barely seeing anything around you, and having no one see you at that moment will really allow you to reflect on the day (or not reflect), and think and feel anything that naturally comes to you. Make a point of relaxing your face while lying there. Let your muscles relax at that time. Your expression doesn’t matter. Your actions don’t matter. Let your mind wander and reflect. Many introverts find introspection relaxing. [1] X Expert Source Supatra Tovar, PsyD, RDLicensed Clinical Psychologist (PSY #31949), Registered Dietitian, & Fitness Expert Expert Interview. 6 October 2021.
Although introverts need alone time, they can be refreshed by time with those close to them.
In busy modern life, introverts can be drained by constant socialization and complicated schedules. Don’t be afraid to step outside for a break in nature. Go to one of your favorite trails or someplace new. Even a short walk by yourself through your neighborhood can be refreshing.
Write it down somewhere. One way to let out your thoughts and feelings is through a personal diary of your own. Some introverts may enjoy other forms of writing, including poetry or various forms of prose. If you feel like sharing something with someone, chat with them. You’re more likely to be yourself and express yourself that way. If you can’t chat with people in-person or dislike chatting in-person, consider chatting with your friends, or even strangers online. However, don’t get so used to chatting online that you don’t feel comfortable chatting in person. Draw or paint. Don’t be afraid to let your creativity go rein-free. Play an instrument. Don’t be afraid to express yourself. You can keep your expression to yourself if desired.
Although introverts usually don’t recharge by socialization, even introverts can get lonely. A bit of socialization may sometimes be what you need. You could always make a digital mood chart for yourself! Open the “notes” app on your phone and write out the upcoming dates as numbers. Next to each date, include a plus sign if you had a positive day, a negative sign if you had a bad day, and an equal sign if you had a neutral day. This can help you figure out where your energy and emotions are at. [2] X Expert Source Tara BradfordLife & Mindset Coach Expert Interview. 16 September 2020.
Introverts often enjoy activities such as photography, art, music, and writing if you need ideas. Check out How to Find a Hobby for help. Interests can also lead to socialization opportunities and may foster friendships.
If you can’t find people sharing your interests in-person, you can join online forums/websites to find like-minded individuals. You can find online communities of authors, readers, vocalists, and many many more. [3] X Expert Source Nicolette Tura, MAAuthentic Living Expert Expert Interview. 23 January 2020. Pay attention to your energy levels before and after you speak with certain people. Try to spend time with people who are energizing instead of draining. [4] X Expert Source Tara BradfordLife & Mindset Coach Expert Interview. 16 September 2020. Try to figure out what kinds of situations are draining or energizing, too. For instance, a 1-on-1 chat might be energizing while speaking in front of a group could be draining. [5] X Expert Source Tara BradfordLife & Mindset Coach Expert Interview. 16 September 2020.
If you can’t (or don’t want to) cut events out completely, you can try adjusting your schedule (if possible) to allow yourself alone time in between events that drain you. Don’t be afraid to say “no”. [7] X Research source Sometimes you need time to yourself. [8] X Expert Source Supatra Tovar, PsyD, RDLicensed Clinical Psychologist (PSY #31949), Registered Dietitian, & Fitness Expert Expert Interview. 6 October 2021. If someone keeps inviting you to an event, you may need to be direct and tell them that you still like them though you can’t hang out all the time.
Wear earplugs/noise-cancelling headphones or remove the source of noise if loud sounds are overwhelming. Try telling those close to you to give you a warning if you can’t handle people touching you unexpectedly. Removing (or blocking) the emotional and sensory triggers. If some of your close people make you feel uncomfortable by their habit to be sarcastic, make fun of everything and so on, talk to them about your sensitivity. [11] X Expert Source Nicolette Tura, MAAuthentic Living Expert Expert Interview. 23 January 2020. Accept this part of yourself. Know that there is nothing wrong with being sensitive and that your sensory and emotional pain is valid.
